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Reflections on #ThemToo

I recently learned of sexual misconduct allegations against someone who used to be a good friend.

Although I am unfamiliar with all the sordid specifics or accuracy of these allegations, they don’t align with this individual’s character as I knew it.  That doesn’t mean they aren’t true, but they just don’t jibe with my own experience.

As I was attempting to wrap my head around this, I started thinking about other victims we don’t hear about: an accused person’s friends and family. They may or may not have been aware of a problem.  They may or may not have been complicit.  But surely they must be experiencing some fallout themselves — perhaps from friends, family, colleagues or neighbors who want to distance themselves from someone connected to scandal.

That’s a pretty lonely place to be.

My point is, it’s always more complicated than the headlines suggest.  And maybe, amongst all our collective outrage, we might spare a little compassion for #themtoo.

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