Reflections on #ThemToo

I recently learned of sexual misconduct allegations against someone who used to be a good friend.

Although I am unfamiliar with all the sordid specifics or accuracy of these allegations, they don’t align with this individual’s character as I knew it.  That doesn’t mean they aren’t true, but they just don’t jibe with my own experience.

As I was attempting to wrap my head around this, I started thinking about other victims we don’t hear about: an accused person’s friends and family. They may or may not have been aware of a problem.  They may or may not have been complicit.  But surely they must be experiencing some fallout themselves — perhaps from friends, family, colleagues or neighbors who want to distance themselves from someone connected to scandal.

That’s a pretty lonely place to be.

My point is, it’s always more complicated than the headlines suggest.  And maybe, amongst all our collective outrage, we might spare a little compassion for #themtoo.

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3 thoughts on “Reflections on #ThemToo

  1. adguru101 Post author

    Thanks, Laura! It’s so easy to sit on the sidelines and judge, isn’t it? I looked up this person online and saw a link to a related article — which had zero actual information or corroboration –with lots of people who know nothing about it writing vitriolic comments.

    Whatever happened to “innocent until proven guilty” or “Let he who is without sin cast the first stone.”

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